Over the years I’ve found things that calm my mind and my spirit. I have learned that “my own little hell” was actually several life lessons; pieces of a puzzle I don’t get to see yet. I get angry for having to go through a hardship and then I get angry again for understanding why I had to experience that hardship.
Eventually the dust settles and then all seems okay again…until life decides to throw the next curveball.
It is frustrating to know that we don’t listen to words that might teach us something, words that might save a whole lot of time, words that would help us avoid the upcoming guaranteed negative energy. We have to go through hardships that push meaning through.
However, the people involved, the feelings, the city on the map it took place in…all have a purpose. It all matters. So what do we do with ourselves when a curveball comes pushing through?
Zen, the art of listening.
If you close your eyes right now, you’ll see your current stresses, the list of actions that are incomplete. You might feel the need to stretch or take a deep breath. Most of us feel that closing our eyes is only for resting. Why can’t it be for listening? When we shut down one of our senses, the other’s are amplified. You’ve done this before…you think so hard about a thought, task or project, then someone walks in the room and scares the living day light out of you. You shut down one sense to amplify others.
We all have the answers to our own problems…or own “little hell,” deep inside, within our inner selves.
Try this the next time a curveball comes pushing its way towards you.
1. Find a space in an area where you can’t be disturbed. (Parents of young children–early morning is best, or any time of day where you are not tired, as long as you don’t feel rushed.)
2. Sit in a chair or on the floor with your back straight. Do not lean on anything.
3. Close your eyes. (What do you see?)
4. Clear your mind. (This can be difficult to do if we do not know how.)
-Use deep breathing techniques to help focus your energy on letting irrelevant thoughts drift away.
-Focus on the sound of your breath. Every time a thought comes drifting back in, correct its course with your mind and push it away.
5. When you are confident your mind is clear, (you will know), focus on the question you need an answer to.
This exercise will allow your mind to free yourself from all of life’s distractions. The sound of your own breath will bring perspective to your intention.
Following a basic routine helps draw your focus to your question, and helps brings the answer to light. I like to sit at my kitchen table. I light some candles and use anything I feel is right for the moment. It can be herbs or a journal. I write down my question or desired manifestation and I hold it in my hand while I find My Zen (using the steps above). When I feel complete (try your very best not to set a time limit–but I find that 20 min is right for me), I burn the paper and start paying attention to life.
Listening to the sound of the curveball and its course will produce better results (or answers) than simply watching it pass.
I’d love to hear how you handle life. What have you learned? What do you hope to learn?